You know to stop touching a hot stove with the burning of your skin; pain signals you to pull back. With conditioning, you can push through and control physical pain. You can force yourself to endure against your body’s signal to stop. Once this ability to force becomes “normal”, you think you are fine. Over-time, pushing through too much physical pain leads to losing skin, destroying tendons, and breaking bones.
Emotional pain is the same—pain signals you to pull back. When you ignore pain’s guidance system and continue to ‘hold yourself to the flame’ of your emotions you get burned.
With emotions, you damage your energy first and your body second. The change in your energy system reduces your ability to function much like not eating or lack of sleep does. In your low energy state you are more likely to create emotional body blocks, which degenerate the physical body.
Pushing into pain creates an entrenchment, a reinforcement of the block. You forcibly hold yourself in pain with beliefs like:
- I deserve this.
- I knew better and I did it anyway.
- Why do these things always happen to me?
- You did this to me!
Without these entrenching beliefs you would move through your emotions and be okay in the moment. The entrenching belief keeps the pain active, current, and connected to the past. Holding the block creates a constant need for release. This yin-yang process of block, release, block, release, block never ends unless you learn to pull back from pain and see it for what it actually is, a warning.
Practice: When two separate thoughts exist and the mind makes them one it is necessary to separate them with conscious thought in the brain for balance to exist. Example: My most ingrained personal entrenching beliefs supported the concept of ‘not good enough’. I remember in church hearing Christ was perfect and I needed to be Christ-like. These were two separate thoughts, and my mind made them one. The world on the other hand continually supported me by saying it was okay not to be perfect. The dichotomy this created over time was unbearable. I would never be able to be Christ-like if I was not perfect and the world said I would never be perfect. The constant trap of deciding which God to serve was maddening, and even though I left the church the beliefs stayed with me. With my wellness practice I eventually learned to spot these kinds of entrapment and moved toward releasing them, freeing up my energy to be used by my body, mind, and spirit.